The holiday season is usually marked by gatherings with family and close friends, often centered around meaningful traditions like meals and celebrations. For people who are grieving, however, the holidays can feel lonely, isolating, and even depressing.
While the holidays may be a challenging time, we are here to support you with compassion and understanding.
Ways to Cope with Holiday Grief
- Try the Holidays in a New Way
Grief has a unique way of helping us to reconsider what elements of the holidays we enjoy and those we don’t. There is no right or wrong way to handle the holidays while you grieve. Let your usual holiday routine act as a framework and do what feels right for you. It’s okay to make changes to how you celebrate this time of the year, even if it is different than how you’ve done it in the past. - Have a Plan A/Plan B
The holidays can be overwhelming even if you are not grieving. If “Plan A” is to go to a holiday dinner with family or friends, make a “Plan B” in case you feel like “Plan A” is too much. You can plan a quiet night at home to watch a movie, look through old photo albums, or visit a place that was special to you and the person you are grieving. For many people, having a “Plan B” gives them the peace of mind they need to go forward with their original plan. - Cancel or Postpone the Holidays Altogether
You can cancel your holiday plans if you need to. For some, staying involved with the holidays is a symbol of life continuing. But if you are going through the motions and feel overwhelmed or numb as you plan for the holidays, you can take the year off. The holiday season will come again next year. Waiting to celebrate until you’re ready is okay. - Focus on Your Needs
Grieving is not a simple process, and your needs are important. Be patient and gentle with yourself. You don’t have to do more than you want to, and it’s okay to avoid things that won’t serve your emotional or physical needs. Allow yourself time and space to process your feelings, cry, or rest. The holiday season is not an obligation, so take whatever time you need to care for yourself. - Make Space for Community
Everyone grieves differently, but grief does not need to be processed alone. Your loved ones may be grieving as well and creating space for each other can help. Lean on each other for support, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Even having help with tasks like cleaning or grocery shopping can provide relief while you navigate grief this holiday season.
Extra Support When You Need It Most
You are not alone. If you are struggling with grief and loss, the Bereavement team at Hospice of the Northwest is here to support you. We host several grief groups each week and offer individual counseling sessions as well.
Learn more about our Bereavement program by calling 360-814-5570 or visiting our Grief and Loss Support page.
Resources:
- Learn more at www.Grief.com
- Holiday Traditions When You Are Grieving